Self-Development With Good Habits

self_development_postSelf­-development (personal development) is an important subject that people, either doesn’t perceive it in such way, ignore it totally or notice it late in their lives. Self­-development is the process of sharpening your talent, skills and personality. It is a long life­span process, usually you get involved in such process step by step with good habits that you start at some point in your life, because after all, the only common factor of successful people is that they don’t do what failures do.
First, I want to make sure you don’t confuse between self­-development and your job training. For example, when you take a course or read a book as a job training, that is you working for your job; while when you start a good habit to have a later effect that is self­-development, You can do a single action for both targets, there is no problem about that, for example, you can take a language course that will improve your skills in both your job and life but I just want to make sure that you see two different separate targets and I hope “you work more on yourself that you do on your job”.
In this article, I will try to give you the first push into this process, sharing some tips about where to start, how to last in the process, and finally how to keep putting a stone after another on your wall of skills.

I want to point out that good habits don’t have to be done everyday, you can have a week habit or even a month but you need to start having good habits and write them down and that’s very important, you really need to write them down into a paper, people who have written their goals have more probability achieving these goals than people who don’t. You can start with good and simple habits like reading an article, writing an article, watching a YouTube video that is not directly related to your job skills or making a presentation and sharing it with the world on SlideShare, going for a run to shape your body, reading a chapter from a book,……, I can go on

and on for very simple habits that you can do once per month but I will settle down with these for now.
Now the second problem that faces most people is that they start very energetic with dreams to reach stars and after a while they forget all about that. One of the very simple techniques that you can try, is using Google calendar to remind you with your good habits, using a feature like sending mail notification can be very helpful, you can mark the mail as unread until you are done with the habit.

Writing your good habits in a to­do list is another option as well, to keep the goal in front of your eyes and never lose focus, but you need to write­it­off after you are done and re­write it again after a while, so you don’t just get used to it.
I want to finalize this article with the following statement.

‘A’isha is reported to have said that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) was asked about the act most pleasing to Allah. He replied: That which is done continuously, even if it is small.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ سَعْدِ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَبَا سَلَمَةَ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم سُئِلَ أَىُّ الْعَمَلِ أَحَبُّ إِلَى اللَّهِ قَالَ ‏ “‏ أَدْوَمُهُ وَإِنْ قَلَّ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

Don’t forget to share your good habits and how you keep doing them in the comments 🙂

Written by: Ahmed Taha, Dec 2013

#Self #Development #habits #success #good #skills #talent

Be everyone’s favorite person

Every one wish to choose his colleagues like choosing his friends, but in work places the matter is different. There are nice co-workers, bad colleagues and good ones, and all kinds of people you can face in your work. I tried to collect how to work with all these kinds and be their favorite person
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  1. Your attitude:
    Adjusting your attitude will make your self easy to work with, so have a good attitude towards what you do and people you work with.
  2. Knowing:
    When you know your clients and colleagues very good and know their goals, needs, etc ; that will help to have a good rapport with your colleagues.
  3. Be Approachable:
    If you go to your work with a scowl in your face and keep sighing all the day, don’t expect people to talk with you. You have to be nice person and keep smiling to your colleagues faces.
  4. Yes Yes Yes
    Don’t be the person who always says “No” because “Yes” always opens new connections and you will not lose any thing when you try, You will learn
  5. Help others:
    Never say “That’s not my job”, try to think with your colleagues to solve problems and be beside them.
  6. Learn:
    Willing to learn will help you go ahead in your carrer and be better. Also If you found your colleage not good in something like problem solving, help him and remember he may be better than you in something else like communication skills. So you should help each other and share knowledge.
  7. Coach:
    Most of people are very very good to tell you what you have done wrong, but very very few who will tell you how to do it right. So share what you know with others
  8. Respect:
    No matter what your boss’ qualifications are, what he did, where he lives or anything, He is still your boss and deserves to be respected. Treat him as you like to be treated when you will be a boss. Try to inform him if you will be late or you will leave early
  9. Respond quickly:
    When your colleagues send you an email or ask you for something and they are waiting for your reply, you have to respond quickly as you can even if reply with “ I will get back to you!”
  10. Write good emails:
    Your email should provide just enough information to answer these five questions: Who are you? What do you want? Why are you asking me? Why should I do what you’re asking? What is the next step?

    Also shorter emails will help recipients to focus and get what do you want.

  11. Be on time:

    Being on time shows that you are dependable and respectful of others. Entering a meeting late gives you an air of disorganization and hurts your performance; it is hard to gain command of the room when you are the last to enter it.

Written byHossam Ghareeb Jun 2013

#leadership #work #environment

Successful People’s Common Factor

Successful people are a very small set of human beings, I will leave it to you to define who is a successful people  – please don’t confuse them with normal people – and I am sure whatever your definition is, you will agree that such set is very small, A lot of researches have been done to identify what is the common factor between these people. In this article, I am not going to add another research; I am just going to highlight a certain one that I have recently read.

Some might argue that such common factor is hard working, but naah, that’s not it, you must have seen a lot of people that worked hard and at the end of the day, they are normal people, they are not failures and they are not successful as well. They are just normal, hard working is a requirement but it is not the main idea.

So what is the main idea, I won’t make you wait long, so here it is …….. Are you ready 😀 ,  “Successful People do what failures don’t like to do” that’s it , that’s the whole deal, but please notice that I didn’t say, “Successful people like to do what failures don’t like to do” because they actually don’t like it , they just do it. So what are the things that failures don’t like to do? mmm… it is all the things that we all don’t like to do. It is our nature to escape having a deadline and committing to it, it is our nature to dodge tests, it is our nature to hate to face all life challenges everyday for the rest of our life, we enjoy being lazy, irresponsible, and careless, don’t you??

So why these monkeys “Successful people” do what failures don’t like doing?? What is the engine behind them? What keeps them bashing into walls everyday, trying to change things around them and make a difference? Well, they enjoy that feeling after committing to a deadline, they like the feeling when they get an A in an exam, they love going to bed at the end of the day thinking “I have made a change today”, to get a formal answer, they are influenced by the desire of the result and not by the desire of the methods (just doing it the easy way and get ride of it). Most people usually try to look for an easy ways to get a certain job done and then they make themselves accept the non perfect results because and I quote “it is easier to adjust to the hardships of a poor living than it is to adjust ourselves to the hardships of making a better one“.

Many people like to think that having a family and children will motivate them to have a better life but it doesn’t work like that, because such motive will probably make them work more but still they didn’t change from inside, they still don’t enjoy that feeling after committing successfully to a deadline, they would rather deliver a low quality work with less effort than to work harder to deliver a higher quality work.

You must have an inner motive pushing you forward, pushing you only for having a better live and being successful, and not just someone or some commitment that you are obligated to. So what should I do now? :), Well, You need to rethink your habits, what you do always / everyday? Evaluate it; is it a habit that will result in a better person after a couple of years? I should have talked more about changing your habits but I guess I will end it right here, I may talk about it in my next article…..

Finally I would like to end my article with this video

Written by: Ahmed Taha, April 2013